How to make him miss you is essential in creating that internal desire or relationship glue that keeps couples together. It’s all about creating those memories that stand the test of time and create that internal never-ending “want.”
Whether you are targeting a guy that you know likes you, you’re in a loving relationship, or you’re trying to get a guy back because he dumped you, making him miss you is your way in.
It’s nice to be wanted and even better to be desired. Understanding how you can create that “miss you” factor means you are heading down the right path of building your union strong. Add to that, knowing how to make him love you more and you are in great shape!
Life is what you make it. Love is what you make it.
Use these practical and clever tips and tricks to make your man miss you and love you more, and you’re going to be a very happy and cherished woman. Exactly what you deserve.
IT’S TIME TO UNCOVER THE TOP SECRET STRATEGIES ON HOW TO MAKE HIM MISS YOU MORE
Make Him Miss You by Being a Social Butterfly
Let’s look at two scenarios:
Lydia and Jon go to a party. She doesn’t really know anyone, so she clings to him shyly all night. He’d like to break free and catch up with his buddies in the corner, but he feels like leaving her will be a bad idea.
Sasha and Brett go to the same party. She doesn’t know anyone either, but immediately lets go of his hand, grabs a drink, and ends up talking to a group of people for an hour. When Brett looks over, she seems to be having a blast.
Do you think Jon or Brett will be more excited about asking his lady out again?
It may be early days in this might-be-a-relationship, but practicing independence early on sets a good precedence. Dr. John Gottman, relationship expert and author of The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, stresses the importance of autonomy in a relationship. Having different interests, friends, and activities make for a more balanced couple.
And 39% of couples have a healthier relationship because they have independence from one another when they need it.
Now, you may be nowhere near needing to make a marriage work, but the same principles apply. Attend a social function together — but apart, at least some of the time — and I guarantee he will be attracted by your independence.
Okay, Adam, you say, how does that actually work?
At the next party or event you attend together, leave his side and start talking to other people. Maybe you see a friend of your cousin’s. Go say hi, and introduce yourself to her friends. If the music is irresistible, get out there and cut a rug.
Now, this is not to make your date jealous. I don’t want you to start chatting up another guy and then keep looking over to see if he’s paying attention to you talking to some dude.
No, I want you to actually work the room. Be incredibly social and talk to a lot of different people. Some women and some men. Make new friends. Compliment someone on her dress. Forget he’s even in the same room for a while. Have fun.
But know this: he’s going to notice that you’re talking to a lot of people, and that you’re not necessarily engaging with him. He’ll squirrel away this information, and that’s a good thing. Throughout the night, catch his eye across the room (how poetic!) and give him a smile.
And then as the night goes on, let him come to you. You’ll have lots of things to discuss, as you share the conversations and experiences you had that evening. But don’t reattach to him just yet…
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TELL HIM ALL ABOUT YOUR AWESOME DAY
The truth is, your guy wants to be the only thing that makes you smile, according to relationship experts at YouQueen. If you let him know you’re having fun without him, a night with the girls or maybe a hike with friends, then he’s really going to want to be a part of it all.
Guys are genetically programmed to want to be the sole factor in making you smile. However, if you’re smiling when he’s not beside you then you’re going to trigger him to pay attention and increase that internal need to be the one putting a smile on your face.
Super easy when you think about it.
Make Him Miss You with the Touch and Flake Technique
This tactic works following the first one, while you’re still at that party.
I call this highly effective strategy for getting him to miss you the Touch and Flake.
Never underestimate the power of touch. And yet…men are the ones who somehow miss the value. In a recent study, 33% of men said they have never tried touching a woman they like as a way to escalate intimacy.
I’m sure those women they didn’t touch were pretty disappointed.
But that just proves my point. A well-planned press of the hand to his big, strong bicep, or a ruffle of his hair can turn him into a big puddle of happiness. After all, physical touch is the most important love language for many men (and women).
So the Touch and Flake requires you to break the touch barrier and touch your guy briefly. Then walk away, leaving him wanting more.
I remember I was once at a party with some friends, and there was a woman who I was really into. It was like she’d read this article: she walked around, talking to different people. I started to want to engage with her, so I approached her.
What did she do?
She put one hand on my chest, one hand on my neck, leaned in, smelled my neck and said, “Mm, you smell good.”
Now that’s some girl game. And she knew it. She didn’t stick around after that. She ended the conversation and walked away.
And when she started walking away from me, I remember thinking to myself, “I have to have her in my life.”
You can do this, too.
If you’re sitting down and his hand is on the table, lean in and cup his with yours. Then remove it.
If you’re standing up, put your hand on his shoulder and lean in like you’re telling him a secret. More likely than not, he will automatically put his arm around you. Bonus.
The Touch should be light and fleeting. The Flake comes when you walk away, leaving him wanting more. Remember: you’re in control of the situation, and as long as you’re the one to cut the conversation short, you keep the upper hand.
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DON’T HAVE YOUR PHONE ATTACHED TO YOUR HIP
When your man texts you, don’t immediately reply. All this is going to do is increase the odds he’s going to start taking you for granted. When he shoots you a question make sure you leave some time before you respond.
This will increase the chase because he will naturally be wondering what you’re up to. A great thing for you.
After an hour or so, give him a response and remind him you are having a great day (without him) and you’ve just triggered him to miss you more.
Make Him Miss You By Being a Busy Woman
Now, don’t misunderstand: this tip isn’t about pretending to be busy, playing hard to get, or making up ridiculous games to make it look like you have a cool life. I’m not suggesting you fake Instagram photos to make it look like you’re doing fabulous things when you’re really in dirty sweats at home on the couch with your dog.
My advice to you, as always, is to have actually a very cool life.
If you’ve been putting all this energy into finding a great guy, it’s time to divert some of that energy into things that will make you happy and whole, regardless of whether you have a partner or not.
Find something interesting to do with your life.
Commit to finding a hobby that you can do on a regular basis.
About three years ago, I started kitesurfing and it became my passion. (Hey, I’m in good company: Barack Obama and Richard Branson do it!)
So when I’m not working on Sexy Confidence, I enjoy kite surfing. It’s my thing.
And for all you sexy, single ladies out there, it’s so important for you to have your thing. Have your time where you can enjoy yourself without needing to share that time with anyone else. Find something to do that gives you something interesting to talk about when you are around people.
It’ll make you less available to men, and it’ll make you a more interesting person. That combination is ultimately what is going to make a man miss you, want you, and really pay attention to you. He will see that you’re made of substance. That you have interests that you’re not willing to give up to spend time with him
So the next time he asks you out? You might already have plans to hit the climbing gym. Or meet with your book club. Go hiking. Or get mani-pedis with your girls.
He can’t miss you if he’s with you all the time, so make sure your calendar is balanced between spending time with him, spending time with friends, and having alone time doing those things that fulfill you.
Don’t change your plans for him. First off, you need to maintain who you are when you’re in a relationship, so start out dating this guy by setting some ground rules: some activities and events will not be changed because they are important to you. You will fit him in when your schedule allows. A confident woman won’t alter what she’s planned to do for a guy.
While it may seem flattering to have someone change plans to spend with you, a guy might be concerned that you’re too willing to ditch what seemed to matter to you in order to Netflix and chill with him.
Another component of this tip is how available you make yourself via text and phone. I know some women who will answer a call from a man no matter what they’re doing:
“Ted? Is that you?? I don’t have great reception. I’m hiking Kilimanjaro right now. But yea, I can talk for a few minutes!”
Focus on what you’re doing. His call can go to voicemail or his text can go unanswered for a few hours if you’re busy. I’m a big fan of keeping your attention on one thing. And not taking calls during meals or when you’re hanging out with other people.
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WOW HIM IN THE BEDROOM
This one is a win-win but hear me out. When you make a point of wowing him in the bedroom, you are going to always make him miss you to some degree. Boys do tend to think with their smaller head!
Use your bedroom specialty to make sure he remembers and misses you. And if he happens to pull the nonchalant card acting like he doesn’t miss you, play it right back to him. This will drive up his curiosity and make in want you more.
Lovemaking is personal and involves emotions and if it’s great, you’ve really got him hooked, at least for the moment. Use this to make him miss you.
If a guy’s giving you the cold shoulder or not as much attention as he should, stop all contact for a few days. Be too busy to text or talk and give him the chance to really miss you. This is a tough one to pull off sometimes but well worth it.
Make sure he is the first one to contact you so you’re in the driver’s seat. This is guaranteed to make him miss you more.
LOOK FABULOUS WHEN HE SEES YOU
There’s nothing that’s going to make a guy miss you more than looking hot to trot when he does spend time with you. Even if you aren’t with him and know he’s going to see you, like when you’re out at a party, be sure to go all out on looking amazing. Leave him drooling if you can.
Psychology Today says when guys are visually stimulated that’s interconnected with emotion. And we all know emotion and logic don’t mix. Play with his emotions and you’re going to make him really miss you. Whether he gets the prize or not is completely up to you.
GIVE YOUR ATTENTION TO ANOTHER GUY
Don’t overdo it here but if you show an interest in another guy and act like you are having fun, even if you aren’t, you’re going to tap into those evolutionary traits men have of dominance. He’ll have no choice but to want you more and put a plan in place to let you know he’s missing you.
SHOW EXTRA FRIENDLINESS
If you aren’t with this particular guy anymore and happen to see him, try and act extra polite. In particularly when he’s with another girl you need to flash those pearly whites and act like you are crazy happy with life. This is going to drive him nuts in a good way.
Trust me, you will be the one on his mind.
Just be sure you don’t stay too long and try and make it awkward. In and out and on you go is the way to play it!
MAKE A POINT OF BEING HAPPY WITHOUT HIM
Sure, when you break up with someone you are sad and miserable. What’s important is that you don’t show this to him. If you seem to be totally happy and content, he is going to miss you terribly. On the flip side, if you are a mess, you’re guaranteeing he’s already forgot about you and moved on.
WEAR HIS FAVORITE SCENT
This one may seem weird but scent and emotions can be extremely powerful. If you happen to have a perfume he goes crazy over, make sure you wear it ever chance you get. Put on a little extra, even just to be sure he gets a whiff whenever you walk past.
With the scent, he’s going to remember and he’s going to miss you, that’s a given.
It’s safe to say that if a guy is really into you, he’s going to be the one shooting off the text messages. But it certainly doesn’t hurt to send him a couple of cute reminders of why he should be missing you. Just don’t go overboard or you’re going to seem desperate.
Perhaps before you hop into bed at night, you can shoot him a message reminding him you are thinking of him, but only if you are in a relationship. That one is guaranteed to make him miss you.
RELAX AND CHILL
You want to be the woman no guy can imagine being without. Start by chill-axing and being yourself. Make sure you are happy with yourself and know what direction you’re heading in life. Keep things fun and inviting, light might be a better word for it.
Newsflash – Guys are programmed to think all women are hard work. You want to be the girl that lights up his life and every room you walk into. Do this and you’re going to have him missing you as soon as you’re out of his sight.
BE A TEASER
Guys think with their eyes first and without a doubt they do appreciate outer beauty. This doesn’t mean they only like you for your boobs and butt. However, if you are willing to throw in some sexy dress treats, that’s what is going to pop into his head when he doesn’t have you beside him.
The best is when you suddenly out of nowhere show up in a super hot dress that leaves all jaws dropping, with eyes only for your guy.
Definitely this one will get you high marks in the “miss you” department.
SHOW HIM YOU’RE HIS ROCK
Sure, guys are supposed to be the strength in a relationship, the fixers and the doers. It’s also important you show him you can listen and take action too. Men are problem solvers and don’t want to talk till the cows come home, which they never do.
When your man has an issue, listen to what he has to say and remind him that you believe he will figure it out. Another piece of the puzzle of making your guy miss you like crazy.
PLAY HARD TO GET
Whether you’ve been with your man a few days to years it’s VIP that you play hard to get. No doubt men are hunters and love figuring out how to get around the bases. This will excite them and make them want you more.
This means, don’t be a slave to your phone or text messages, be busy some nights when he’s like to spend time with you, and make sure you always find time to do your own things without him.
Independence is sexy and a tool that will always keep him on his toes. You don’t need him per say but you do want him. Only a crazy wouldn’t miss that!
SHOW HIM YOU’RE ADVENTUROUS
Men’s Health reports if you want a guy to miss you, it’s important for you to slip into adventure because that’s where men shine. Stop talking about his feelings and take action in life. Guys want to rule the jungle. They want to climb higher and ride further. With you right beside him cheering him on.
There’s no trickery needed in making him miss you. It’s a matter of sometimes curbing your enthusiasm about how excited you are to be dating him, and finding ways to assert your independence. Having autonomy, we’ve learned, not only shows him that you’re not a clinging wallflower but that you’re confident and capable of enjoying yourself without being glued to his side.
Having your own interests can go a long way toward making him more interested in you. The more things you’re into, the more he will be into you. And if those hobbies happen to align? Great, but don’t feel like you have to go to the climbing gym with him every single week. If you run into him while there with a friend, do the Touch and Flake and then climb on.
As he realizes that he often misses you and wants to spend more time with you, he’ll start to see the benefit of moving from casual to committed.
So I want to hear from you in the comments right there below. Which one of these things are you going to focus on the next time you go out with guy? Leave that comment right there below.
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