June 7 2018. Eplanetnews
Recovering from a breakup might not be the easiest of tasks for most people, even though breakups happen more often than not. However, you would want to open that new chapter of once again meeting someone special.
No matter how long it takes you though, there’d be a time to get back into a loving relationship and if you are scared, worried or unsure of when the best time for that is, the tips below will guide you.
1. You genuinely want to date for the right reasons
Many people after being hurt by a former partner, resort to quick relationships to make themselves feel better or to make their exes jealous. This is referred to as rebound relationship, and is solely a selfish move no one should take. Once you’re no longer looking for rebounds or trying to make your ex jealous, then you are quite ready. You’re not trying to fill a void left behind by the breakup. Instead, you’re dating because you’re ready to move on and meet new people.
2. You’re focusing on your inner self
If you’re still blaming your ex for everything that went wrong in your relationship, you’re not ready to date yet. Part of moving on is being able to own up to your own personal BS and mistakes – even if that mistake was dating your ex in the first place. We have to accept our faults and acknowledge the fact that we aren’t perfect.
3. Your anger and hatred dies off
Allowing yourself fully express any form of emotions (most usually anger) after a breakup is a very important aspect of getting over the past relationship. You’re perfectly entitled to feel angry as hell after a breakup. Allow yourself to feel all the feelings – even the ugly ones that make you want to throw stuff against the wall. You need to process all the crappy emotional stuff or you’re going to carry all these negative feelings into your next relationship. Although you might want to avoid getting overwhelmed by these emotions.
4. You took your time
The average amount of time to get over a breakup varies from individuals. Before considering a new relationship, you know yourself and you want to be sure you gave yourself enough time to adjust to the reality of the situation. If you took your time and healed completely before deciding to have a go at love again, you are doing just right.
5. You are fine with being alone
Being single does not faze you, and being in a relationship is just something that happened in the natural course. It wasn’t forced, neither was it chased as a way if forgetting your anger and misery.